The Art of "Good Enough": Lowering the Bar to Elevate Your Energy

The Art of "Good Enough": Lowering the Bar to Elevate Your Energy

As a mom of multiples, your to-do list is a mile long before you've even had your first cup of coffee. The pressure to keep a tidy home, cook a nutritious meal, and manage everything with a smile can feel crushing. We've been conditioned to believe that a "good" mom keeps a spotless house and has it all together.

But what if we redefined what "good" looks like? What if we gave ourselves permission to lower the bar on the little things so we could elevate what truly matters—our energy, our well-being, and our connection with our children?

The Freedom in Letting Go

There's a quiet rebellion in embracing "good enough." It's a refusal to let unrealistic expectations dictate your day. It’s about recognizing that some things just don't have to be perfect right now. A sink full of dishes might be a visual reminder of a busy day, but it's not a judgment on your worth as a mother. A load of clean laundry sitting in the basket for a few extra hours is not a personal failure.

The beautiful thing about letting go of perfection is the incredible freedom it creates. That mental space you used to fill with self-criticism can now be used for something far more valuable—like enjoying a few minutes of quiet with your coffee or just watching your babies play.

A 20-Minute Nap vs. a Clean Kitchen

Let's do a quick mental exercise. Imagine you have a rare, glorious 20-minute window of time where both babies are sleeping. What's the first thing your mind tells you to do? Is it to tackle the mountain of dishes? To wipe down the counters?

I want to challenge that instinct.

A clean kitchen is nice, but it won't recharge your weary soul. A 20-minute nap, however, can be a game-changer. It can be the difference between making it through the afternoon meltdown with patience and completely losing your cool. Your rest is not a luxury; it's a necessity. It’s an investment in your mental and emotional health, which, in turn, directly benefits your entire family.

Your to-do list will always be there. But your chance for rest, for a moment to breathe and reset, is often fleeting. Prioritize the thing that gives you energy, not the one that drains it.

Remember, a home doesn't need to be perfect to be filled with love. It just needs to be safe and functional. You are doing enough simply by keeping those little humans alive and loved. It’s time to start giving yourself the same grace you give them.

What's one thing you can realistically let go of today to create a little more breathing room for yourself?